How Easy is It to Have Sex

• #1

Hi there, I accidently heard one of my friends say:

I'm not the easy person to have sex with, you know.

She meant to say she doesn't sleep with guys she barely know. Is her sentence idiomatic?

• #2

I'd get rid of the end, making the phrase, "I'm not the easy person", or simply even "I'm not easy". "Easy" (when used as slang), already states that she's easy to have sex with, hence the adjective "easy". Therefore, adding the second part makes the sentence a bit redundant.

I do hear the adjective "easy" used in that way all the time though.

• #3

I'd get rid of the end, making the phrase, "I'm not the easy person", or simply even "I'm not easy". "Easy" (when used as slang), already states that she's easy to have sex with, hence the adjective "easy". Therefore, adding the second part makes the sentence a bit redundant.

I do hear the adjective "easy" used in that way all the time though.

Thank you very much! I learn something new.

• #4

I agree: easy is enough, Kenny.
What's more: I'm not an easy person to have sex with sounds rather like It's a bit of an ordeal having sex with me

• #5

I agree: easy is enough, Kenny.
What's more: I'm not an easy person to have sex with sounds rather like It's a bit of an ordeal having sex with me

Yes, now that you mentioned it, it did sound rather weird.

• #6

I don't think easy was used in the sexual sense here, even though the context is indeed sex. I think she meant easy in the normal sense, i.e. "not difficult," but the result was an unidiomatic sentence. I see it like this:

I'm not the easy person to have sex with = I'm not the easiest person to have sex with.

...which is still a bit ambiguous: it could mean 1) it's difficult to get me into bed, or 2) having sex with me is an ordeal/a difficult process (as ewie said). So my choice:

I'm not the easiest person to get into bed.

The reason I don't think easy was intended in the sexual sense is that not being easy does not necessarily mean being difficult to get into bed! A person can be "not easy" but still sleep with people if he/she feels it the right thing to do. Easy to me means that they sleep with anyone and everyone, no matter what. --- but maybe this is getting too personal.

• #7

The expression "have sex" meaning "have sexual intercourse" is to me a strange one. Every person has sex in the sense of having a sex, namely male or female. But where did the expression "have sex" originate? (By the way, if you have any extra, please mail it to me in a plain brown wrapper.)

• #8

But where did the expression "have sex" originate?

Here's the relevant OED definition of "sex":

b. Physical contact between individuals involving sexual stimulation; sexual activity or behaviour, spec. sexual intercourse, copulation. to have sex ( with ): to engage in sexual intercourse (with).
Now the most common general sense.

The first citation under this definition dates from 1900.

• #10

The expression used to be "an easy lay". "You think I'm an easy lay, do you?"

I don't recognise

"I'm not the easy person"

as meaning anything at all, not with 'the'.

Saying someone is "not an easy person", means they are hard to get on with, they are difficult. You might say the person is "not the easiest person" or "not the easiest of people" meaning they are very difficult.

Hermione

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Source: https://forum.wordreference.com/threads/easy-person-to-have-sex-with.1395154/

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